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superzeroes
20-02-2007, 07:02 PM
Have we ever come across our mind, imagining the finance manager of our company is someone who kicked her mother in law out of her flat simply because she works as a cleaner? Or the doctor whom we always patron whenever we are sick is the bastard son who chased his mother out of her home. Isn’t it very ironical? Someone, whom in our eyes, supposed to have received high education, neatly dressed and is a higher level of working professionals, is in fact a shallow *******?

There was this article from The Newpaper few days ago about a son (doctor) and his wife (finance manager) who “kicked” their mother out of their flat. And this happened straight after the poor mother re-assigned the ownership of the flat to her son’s name.

As while this news might not be the first ever case in Singapore, what seems more infuriating is the fact the son and wife didn’t seems to be at all ashamed and repentant with their action after being interviewed by the Newpaper’s reporter. And they claimed they were very sad and hurt when they found out that their mother actually seek legal assistance against them in order to get the son to provide for her. And the reason why the son chased his mother out of the flat is simply because he and his wife did not want the mother to work as a cleaner. And also the wife felt it’s very disgraceful of her status as a finance manager to have a mother in law who is a cleaner. The paper even quoted that there were once the daughter in law was having lunch with her colleagues and saw her mother in law doing table cleaning in a food court. She felt “lose face”. If I ever have a wife or friends like that, I will not hesitate to humiliate or make her “lose face” even more.

Of course I am not saying I am way better them these 2 ******* ********, and in fact this living example does reminded me how much I have taken my parents for granted at times. To me, this article is not so much about reminding us that we should never treat our parents that way. Rather I feel this article makes me realized when you have high education, earning big bucks, holding a high post, living in big luxurious flats and driving a big car doesn’t mean you are better off then those who are just a cleaner, general workers or toilet cleaners.

I ever attended a church service invited by my friend. And the pastor who was standing at the front said one thing that I found was rather true about local youngsters. “When you throw a stone, there is a very high chance the stone will hit a university graduate. Many youngsters are getting more and more complacent nowadays. Because of the fact they are able to have higher education now. Everyone think that there are very superior because they have a degree or something higher. They felt they are higher then others who has less and lower. They feel that those with only O Levels, ITE Certs or even Diploma is something very inferior.”

Many forget who they used to be and what kind of friends they used to hang out with. Every one of us simply uses this excuse of “upgrading” ourselves and not wanting to be stagnant in life to climb up the life ladder at the expense of kinship, friendship and some other basic values of human being. Many of us have changed but we don’t realize it anymore. Or simply because we do not want to accept it. Just like the case of the son who is a doctor and his wife who is a finance manager.



***Please review your language next time. Thanks.***

shadowdancer
20-02-2007, 10:05 PM
I believe those two will have their taste of their own medicine. As for the society, partly blame those over, because they are the one "label" the different type of society. Thus, everyone have the idea of who are the superior and who are the inferior.

superzeroes
20-02-2007, 11:17 PM
Oppss. Sorie Modz and Soundwave, i simply cut and paste what i wrote in my blog. So i forgot about those "vulgar" words that i used there. No Offence. Not purposely.

I think the part when the son felt hurt and sad about the mother seeking legal assistance against them. So to make the son at least pay monthly allowance to this poor mother is way too much. He still got the cheek to feel "sad and Hurt" after what he and his wife did. So much for an educated professional who is a doctor. I really wonder what he is thinking whenever he is at his clinic treating sick people, saving people's life and curing other old folkes of their sickness when he was actually a ungrateful son who drove his mother out.

[soundwave]
20-02-2007, 11:19 PM
Oppss. Sorie Modz and Soundwave, i simply cut and paste what i wrote in my blog. So i forgot about those "vulgar" words that i used there. No Offence. Not purposely.

No problem. Just remember next time. :yeah:

rookiyong
20-02-2007, 11:29 PM
I read this also in the Chinese papers, and he should have known very well that his mother had done this job to bring him up and provide for his education. It is ok for them wanting their mother to quit the job if the reason is to enjoy life and let them take care of her. But when the reason is "lose face", its really undesirable.

What you do today will affect what will happen tomorrow, I think one day they will find out.

cyc
21-02-2007, 10:01 AM
education has no corelation with ethics or filial... maybe, the fact that they're highly education, we expect 'em to be filial... of coz, wht they did is undesirable, karma will get to 'em one day...

Everyone think that there are very superior because they have a degree or something higher.
that's grossly generalising degree holders... in fact, I'd yet to meet a degree holder that think that they're that great... like u said, u anyhow throw stone also can kenna one, so no big deal really, no need to be snobbish... maybe, only a rare few who think that they're living in the 60's :laugh:

Lord_Angelus
21-02-2007, 10:01 PM
that is one of the sucks news I read that day.

It is like so what? If the mom wants to work, it is up to her. Why lose face -_-

rookiyong
21-02-2007, 10:54 PM
Oops, I am actually saying that this is the job that his mother did to bring him up, and providing him food and education, but he now looks down at his mother for doing this job. :)

Urahara_Store
22-02-2007, 12:36 AM
Sigh because of this _____ sort of ppl, innocent uni grads are also hit in the face too sigh. I do met uni ppl, (studying only, not even grad) whom think that they are super super wonderful. Its not a handful, its a significant amount. But i do meet those on the other side too. Hmm think no matter what situation, 4 ever got black sheeps one but maybe due to the 'paper system' more black sheeps appearing. Its a sad thing. Although i am finishing my uni soon, those friends that are closer are those that are 'not so high up' in the ladder of 'paper'. Does education really pollute mindsets? sigh, i am not confident of defending against it anymore......

superzeroes
22-02-2007, 02:08 AM
frankly speaking. Its not generalising degree holders bah. But maybe to me, i also come across ppl who have this sort of mindset which everytime i think about it. It makes me sad. Cos this friend were once close to me (not my gf though). She once said she will find it difficult to accept guys who r ite or o level as bf or husband (she was a diploma holder then)..as she felt they will be difference...Now she is studying degree..what will she tink of me? i am just a diploma holder......not being inferior. but its very ironical at times.We are not longer close like before. Not sure if its due to this fact.

Not sure if there are many such cases elsewhere..but of cos, there are good example though. not to use a bamboo stick to knock out a boat of people. haa. I can only say, its the society at fault. Not us. alot of us are like puppets who just played along or do not want to be left behind.

suddenly very sad..haaa

cyc
22-02-2007, 10:00 AM
thru' my academics days, I'd seen 2 type of pple... one that study for interest, the other for paper qualification... I would say when we were younger, most of us study for interest, that's why most kids play more than they study... when we got older, most of us start to think abt the future, some would take subjects that they've interest in while others would study things that would lead to better future... I would say those who chase after paper qualification are the ones who look down on others when they do become successful... not only uni grad, like wht superzeros said even poly grad look down on ite and O level pple... however, they failed to realise the fact that success doesn't necessarily equate to education, nor does wealth & happiness... I would like to think that god if fair to most pple, he gives some and he takes some... u might be highly educated & wealthy, but u lack health & genuine friends... there's a phraze somebody told me which make good sense "ur life is wht u made out of it" :)

superzeroes
22-02-2007, 05:31 PM
I would say those who chase after paper qualification are the ones who look down on others when they do become successful... not only uni grad, like wht superzeros said even poly grad look down on ite and O level pple... however, they failed to realise the fact that success doesn't necessarily equate to education, nor does wealth & happiness... I would like to think that god if fair to most pple, he gives some and he takes some... u might be highly educated & wealthy, but u lack health & genuine friends... there's a phraze somebody told me which make good sense "ur life is wht u made out of it" :)

Hey cyc. wat u said really makes sense. This topic is not to mock at uni grads etc. But just to reflect on wat is increasing unhealthy in the mindset of singaporeans. I hate to say these ppl are shallow but some of them are really like dat. Actually if we study closely and observe how singaporeans behave, you will realised most of them are not proving and challenging themself to be a better person and have a better life. But rather most of the time, they are jus comparing and competing against people around them. Maybe that is the reason why singaporeans are always feeling unhappy. Cos they never feel that its enough. As long as someone has something better then them? they wanna have that thing too or something better. hope its not out of topic though.:supz: